You Can Heal Your Life

Wow! So everyone that knows me knows how miserable I have been and how much I hate my life right now ect. Well I had a talk the other day with one of my best friends. She recommended and even sent me a book by Louise L Hay called You Can Heal Your Life. I HIGHLY recommend each of you read it. As I go through the book and work on certain aspects of my life, I will be blogging about it the entire way. The concept of the book is that everything, good or bad that happens to us we bring upon ourselves. It is our thoughts that put it out there to the Universe for us to get back. Right now I will go over some of what I have learned for you.

It starts out with this awesome quote "The gateway to wisdom and knowledge are always open" Life is pretty simple, what we give out we get back. "What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.

We create the situations, and then we give our power away by blaming the other person for our frustration. No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for "we" are the only thinkers in it. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives." Which one of these sounds most like you? "People are out to get me." "Everyone is always helpful." Each one of those beliefs will create quite different outcomes. What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us.

The Universe supports us in every thought we choose to think and believe. It only takes us at our own value. Then it reflects our beliefs in our lives. If I believe that life is lonely and that no one loves me, then that is what I will get out of life. Think about how powerful that is! So lets say that I am willing to release that thought and replace it with "Love is Everywhere, and I am loving and lovable" and repeat that to myself often until it becomes true for myself, what kind of things will I be able to draw into my life? I believe I will find loving people flowing into my life, and the people already there becoming more loving towards me. How amazing is that?? Just by changing my thought process the kinds of things that can happen.

Many of us have dumb ideas about who we are and how life should be lived. Thats NOT saying that we ARE dumb. We are all doing the best we can because we haven't known any better. We just need to have more understanding and awareness to make it better and do things differently. Things like "Men dont cry!" "Women cant handle money!" are very limiting ideas that we deal with on a daily basis.

When we are little, we learned how to feel about ourselves and about life by the reactions of adults around us. If you lived with people who were very unhappy, scared, guilty or angry, then you learned a lot of negative things about you and the world around. "I never do anything right." "Its my fault" "If I get angry, Im a bad person" things like that lead to a very frustrating life.

When we grow up we have a tendency to recreate the emotional environment of our early home life. This isnt exactly good or bad, its just what we know. We also seem to recreate in our personal lives, the relationships we had with our parents or what they had between them. Think about it, how often have you had a lover or a boss that is just like one of your parents? We also treat ourselves the way our parents did. We beat ourselves up in the same way (if you listen to what you say to yourself, you can hear it in their voice) We also love ourselves in the same way as you were as a child.  "You never do anything right" "Its all your fault" How often have you said this to yourself? I know I find myself repeating those quite often :( Now how often do you tell yourself "You are wonderful" "I Love you". Which ones do you repeat to yourself more?

Your parents arent really to blame in all of this. They showed love the way they knew how. If they never learned to love themselves, how are they going to teach it to you? They were doing what they knew best, what they themselves learned as children.

I believe that we choose our parents. Whether you believe in a spirit world where you chose them or reincarnation ect. I believe that we chose to come to this place in this time to learn some lesson that will advance us in some way. So we choose our sex, skin color, country ect and then look around for parents who will mirror the pattern we need to work on in this lifetime. Then when we are adults we like to point the finger at them and say "You did this to me!" When really, we chose them because they were perfect for whatever we needed to overcome.

No matter what our problems are, our experiences are just outer effects of our inner thoughts. Self hatred is only about hating a thought about yourself. Example you have a thought that says "I am a bad person". That thought starts a feeling, one you believe. However, if you dont have that thought, you dont have that feeling. Change out your negative thoughts for positive ones and see what feelings show.

So for this week, I am going to set out and undo a lot of these negative thoughts that I believe about myself. I am going to plaster my walls with affirmations so that they become reality and watch how much better my life becomes and I suggest you do the same.